Most of us live our everyday lives trying to please others. Be it your boss, your colleagues, your family, your friends or any of your other loved ones. Even though none of us would like to accept this, or we might not realize that this is what we have been doing, this is the ultimate truth. There is a part of us that always seeks for people’s approval. Some people overcome that aspect of themselves and stop caring about other’s opinion, but being humans, there will always be a part of us that would want to get appreciated or complimented for all the hardwork and sacrifices we make.
This phenomenon is not related to self-esteem in any way. Atleast I hope you are not relating it to self-esteem in any way. it’s a well known fact that people with higher self esteem take the compliments much more happily than the people with lower self esteem, who tend to think that you are just messing with them by throwing a compliment their way. Now you see, I’m not debating on how you should take a compliment, but rather on how we all have that desire to get complimented. It is not something you can – or should, for that matter – suppress.
Caring for other’s needs, sacrificing for your loved ones is indeed a noble thing, but that doesn’t mean you should stop thinking or caring about yourself. Learn to speak up. Tell other’s what you think. Don’t make your life all about serving others. Make it about yourself. I’m not asking you to be selfish. I am just asking you to consider your own happiness too. Do the thing that you love. Go for a walk at odd hours if you want too. Get a pet if you have been thinking about it. Eat what you are craving. Get a job that you like. Learn to live in the moment.
Financial problems and social norms tend to limit our desires in many ways. Figure out the substitute, the one you can follow through with out breaking any norms or burdening your pocket. Stressing yourself out over something you have no control over won’t help you or anyone else in anyway. Take a break. Breath. Recollect yourself, and then think about a way to get control of your problem.
If someone or something is bothering you, speak up about it. Don’t put yourself second to other’s needs. Don’t forget, you’re accountable for your own self. And that you are worthy of everything that is good in the world. Even when you’re trying to please someone, don’t let them make you sad or miserable in nay way.
Most of all, try to be happy. And opinionated. And don’t hesitate to share your wisdom among your friends or family. Now don’t thrust your believes or opinions onto someone, but don’t let them affect your point of view either. It’s what makes you unique. Just don’t loose your own happiness while trying to make everyone else happy. Just remember that you are just as important, and just as good and just as smart as those around you.